The Keys to Successful Learning In the moment of making a new friend, it often does not occur to people that – that same exact person could soon be their best friend. Friends of that sort often share similar interests, characteristics, and unique goals. However, when an individual befriends someone at a young age it is possible for the two of them to grow apart as they grow older. Reasons being that one of the two has more grit, a different mindset, or a purpose for living that the other can not seem to handle.
In particular, Mary and Ann fell out because they each handled situations and challenges unalike. Both girls met each other during their freshman year of high school. Mary lived further from the school than Ann and had a lot more obligations. Marry mother was a divorced parent and she raised Mary along with her other two siblings on her own. She was the oldest so therefore all of the responsibilities as far as the housework and making sure that her siblings were taken care of fell on her. On the other hand, Ann.’s parent’s were still together and she did not have any brothers or sisters.
Ann was a tangentially bright student but she often let her bad habits get in her way. Ann and Mary both took the same classes throughout high school. They learned and studied the same subjects. Ann easily grew discouraged when the girls would work on their homework together. Often she would drift off onto topics such as what they should do on the weekend or what she should wear to school the following day. Mary would engage in conversation but still physically do her work. When Ann noticed that Mary was more focused on her main task at hand instead of going with the flow of the discussion, she would go outside and take a smoke break.
These two women had similar interests, but it was apparent who had more grit than the other. Grit is the determination to stick with a task and actually work for the overall goal despite everything else. According to a video of Angela Ductwork, the creator of grit, that was recorded on TED Talks Education in April of 2013, she stated that as a result of her studies there was a “significant predictor of success and it wasn’t social intelligence, it wasn’t good looks, physical health, and it wasn’t IQ ; It was grit. ” It allows a person to be fully motivated in order to be able to accomplish their futuristic Laos.
The rate that Ann is going it does not seem as if she is going to excel in any of her classes or make it through high school. Maybe she will become more focused and s pop taking Trenton smoke breaks every time seen comes across a concept that is challenging. But who is to say that she can not have a smoke break when she is frustrated or that she will not graduate high school. In a video of Angela Ductwork four years prior to the most recent one in October of 2009, it was recorded with TED Talk Education and titled “True Grit: Can perseverance be taught? , she explains how rite allows a person to “be in a very uncomfortable place for some part of the day working extremely hard and then get up and do it all over again. ” Ann needs to become a grittier person to be able to succeed in the areas in which she is struggling. By her not being able to stay in an uncomfortable place really shows that she does not have the determination she needs to be fully prepared for her future. In order for Ann and Mary to be able to graduate from high school, they needed to pass the California High School Exit Exam.
The exam covered multiple areas of study and students had to pass it as a whole, not Just in sections. Their high school allowed a total of three times to be able to take it and pass. Both girls were very concerned with how well they would do so they decided to make study dates. The study dates would consist of meeting three times a week and it would have to be when each of them felt their best. According to the reading “Managing your time and study environment”, it is imperative to have difficult sessions of your most challenging subjects during the day when you have the most energy.
With that being said, they agreed to meet with one another in the early afternoons. As time was nearing for the exam, Mary started to have more pressure at home do to her mother being ill. Not only was she already caring for her siblings and cleaning but she also had to deal with driving them around. The extra obligation started to get in the way of her studies and she felt as if she was falling behind. Instead of stressing and trying to catch up, she now figures that she knows all that she needs to and decided to focus on her family.
All of the motivation that Ann was receiving from Mary during their first couple of study sessions really made her turn herself around. She got into the bait of noticing exactly where she needed help and was able to humble herself long enough to actually understand the concepts. Both girls were experiencing changes to their mindsets. Mary who previously had a growth mindset was now developing a fixed one and Ann was beginning to have a growth mindset. According to Bargaining by Carol S.
Deck, a person with a growth mindset has the desire to actually learn and understand knowledge. Whereas a person with a fixed mindset feels that they do not need to study any further because they are already smart. The day came for the test and surprisingly both girls passed. Ann felt as if she could have done better because she did forget a few things but at least she passed. Graduation was so close they could almost taste it with their tongues. At this point in their lives is when reality decided to set in.
Ann and Mary realized that with them becoming adults, they do not need each other to accomplish what they know they need to achieve. Both girls are questioning themselves in terms of what they are going to do, go to school or work, go to school and work, or Just work. Mary wants to be able to help her mom financially so she is deciding to go to work full time. On the other hand, Ann.’s parent’s have been very financially stable all her life and will continue to support near in whatever seen does.
She is deciding to go to school and work. Reality makes people consider their purpose in life. According to Purpose in Drive, written by Daniel H. Pink, people have two different types of goals which are profit and purpose goals. Profit goals tend to be based off of being wealthy whether you like the Job or not. Purpose goals have a lot more meaning and they lead you on a path of helping others. Not only do they help others they also can help yourself as a errors in terms of you doing a cause for something you know is right.
Ann and Mary both have purpose and profit goals. Mary is going to make money for her family and that within itself is also a purpose goal. Ann is going to school and working which are profit and purpose goals for herself. All in all, my main objectives were grit, mindsets, and purpose. I have conveyed those objectives utilizing different circumstances in which Ann and Mary were my prime examples. Ann and Mary grew apart from one another as they developed different mindsets and worked on finding their own purpose for living.
